With Greater Age

How appropriate of a title for this blog, it sums up the generalness of what I have to say tonight.

I was once told (and please forgive me because I cannot remember who told me this) :

"With Greater age comes greater wisdom."

This has been probably been one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received in my life. While at the time that sounded stupid to me, it has since grown to be one of my favorite things to reflect on.

Clearly with greater age we learn more, well most of us do anyway. Whether that be how to use the big potty, or quantum physics, we all learn more with age. But what I feel most people lack in this world is freakin everyday common sense.

Where did that go wrong? Where did good old fashioned common sense fall out of peoples agenda? To that dumb woman I seen at the store bitchin because it was cold: "HELLO! Welcome to October in Kentucky, put o something other than your short ass skirt, k?" Or to that guy that  Isaw at the gas station a couple weeks ago,odds are that if you have "locked yourself out of your car" that side door you LEFT OPEN would probably come in handy, just sayin.

But that's not all, those are the DUH moments that people have... what gets me is when people act stupid about something so OBVIOUS and you just want to smack them, especially if you know them.

At the age of 3 I learned that daddy's are not always around. At the age of 5 I learned that boys are assholes and are not afraid to show themselves (and other things) to a lil girl. At the age of 9 I learned that men can be vicious and mean and what it sounds like when your mother is being choked. At the age of  12 I learned that ghosts do exist. At the age of 13 I learned what love was. At the age of 14 I learned that your first love will break your heart in a flat second if the time hits right. At the age of 16 I learned that my best friends in my whole life have always been right there (my mother & my sister). Also at the age of 116 I learned that I could be that vengeful bitch breaking hearts. At the age of 17 I learned the true definition of a whore, trust me, graduated with some. At the age of 18 I learned things don't come easy. At the age of 19 I delivered my first baby, and quickly learned that I hd to stand on my own two feet, or at least attempt to. At the age of 21 I learned that it's easy to get consumed in a bottle of tequila to drown your sorrows. At the age of 23 I gave birth to my 2nd baby, without a father there yet again, and learned that things were so much harder than I ever thought they would be. Also at the age of 23 I learned that sometimes 2nd chances are meant to be. At 24 I learned that you don't have to have a drink in your hand at all times to be happy, that drowning myself every weekend was getting a bit out of control. At the age of 24 I got married, had my 3rd baby, and realized I was where I should have been since I was 16. At the age of 25 I learned that being truly happy is easy as long as you let it be, don't try to fix everything and just live life the best way you know how. And for me that was wit my family in our home, with family dinners, a few arguments, and close friends.

Which bring me to my next point. Close friends. Helllloooo people out there that think that their close friends are the ones that want to take them out partying every weekend, want to change them, and generally act rude and snotty to them. They are horrible friends and they don't deserve your attention at all. With greater age comes greater wisdom, therefore those people need to look in the mirror and realize they are well into their 20's and should act that way and let the bad friends be the ex friends. They don't care about you- so please care about yourself and move on past that, put that out of your life and moveeee onnnn.

I know who my close friends are, I know who my best friends are, and I know who the friends are that no matter how bitchy I am to them will be there for me in the end. I know that at 4a.m. I can call Kat and cry my eyes out, I know that if I were in the hospital Michelle would be sitting in the room with me, I know that even in ten years if I needed something life or death Keisha would be there for me. I know that no matter how stressed I am my wonderful husband will be there to hold my hand and tell me it's all going to be ok. I know that any day, any time my mom & sister would jump to listen to have me just vent, or go shopping with, really must about anything. I hate admitting it but my brother & sister-n-law would too. There are a few friends that I have that I've grown apart from because of their stupid choices and bad taste in "friends" and I hope that one day we can remedy that situation and let things go back to normal, until that moment I wish them the best and hope that occasionally we can hang out and build things back up.

With greater age comes greater wisdom... gosh I hope so...